When it comes to football, trash talk is a part of the game, but trash talk and bullying are two entirely different things. There’s a fine line difference between competitive trash talk and even heated arguments that land in insults, and bullying someone.
Bul-ly: use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants.
Cy-ber-Bul-ly-ing: the use of electronic communication to bully a person, typically by sending messages of an intimidating or threatening nature.
Personally, I’ve had to endure bullies most my entire life, even as an adult, though as an adult, I was much more capable of handling the radical criticism of many people. Sad to say that many of those who bully me as an adult are 20+ years older than I. However, after years of struggling with the worries of the thoughts and opinions of others, I simply stopped caring.
As the Co-Chairman & Director of Operations for the Defenders of the Wall, this is an open letter on behalf of DOTW in direction to victims of both bullying and cyber bullying, and especially to those who have endured suicidal depression and anxiety because of it.
I know it’s hard to believe this, but you are worth so much more than what’s hurting you inside, and while words can maim, your opinion of yourself is the most important. Regardless of who you are, how you dress, how you speak, what your preference is, who you hang out with, how much money you have or don’t have, and pretty much every thing else in between, people will find a reason to hate on you.
They don’t do this for any other reason other than their own insecurities and inferior ideas about themselves. If you were the nobody they try to make you feel as, why would they spend so much time trying to hurt you? They’re doing this to try and make you seem less appealing to others, and “gather” support for themselves, because they lack the courage to stand up on their own. They will create lies about you, they will endlessly torment you and they will do this all to make themselves feel powerful.
In other words, they’re powerless, jealous, envious and inferior to, and of you.
I know that words can hurt deep, Lord knows I’ve had my fair share of some tough battles with suicidal depression, with anxiety and night terrors that would create extreme insomnia, trying to avoid the things I would see when I slept. But you CAN overcome it! We have faith in you! And, sometimes just one person having all of the world’s faith in you to rise above the hate and push forward is all it takes to see you through to another day, to show this world who you can become and leave your mark.
There are many things you can do to help yourself get out of it, and I know that that is also a lot easier said than done, because depression is a mental block that forces these negative ideas about yourself fester inside of you, and you feel trapped and condemned to this darkness, but you can rise above it…if you endure it long enough. This happens to the toughest of warriors, having to endure the hardest battles of life, yet still standing.
Albert Einstein, a man who was ridiculed throughout school, who wasn’t the top of his class ever, and often goofed off, ended up becoming a genius that is world renowned for his wisdom in physics and science, developing the theory of relativity. He was once quoted saying, “Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.” Perhaps one of my favorite quotes when referring to the opposition you get from lesser people. Continuing on that, actor, John Cleese (best known for his work in Monty Python & Fawlty Towers), once said in an interview, “You’d have to relatively intelligent to realize how incredibly stupid you are.” And, that’s one thing that bullies can’t grasp. They have no idea what they’re talking about, and all the logic in the world is not going to stop them.
Think of the first time, someone hurt your feelings, how long ago was that? And, look! You’re still here. I know it feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders, and when a bully speaks against you, slanders your name, and attempts to make you seem less appealing, that all the world is listening to them…but they’re not. In fact, they represent a very small percentage of the world’s population, and a mass majority of the world’s population dislike them very, very much.
I want to share a short, inspirational story I wrote not too long ago, about the struggles we face through depression and anxiety, regardless of what formed it. I know that often when we are pushed down and our hands are kicked away, we feel directionless and we think of ending it all…I too have been down that road.
Perhaps one of the hardest steps in overcoming depression and self doubt, is changing your perspective, but it is the most important factor in rising above the hate, and becoming the very best version of yourself.
On behalf of the Defenders of the Wall, if you ever feel lost, alone, unheard or you need a shoulder to lean, or cry on, we will pay heed to your cries and we will be there for you. If we see you’re being bullied on social media, we will stand up for you and defend you, deflecting all hate and empowering you in the process.
Please remember the following things:
- You are worth more than what people label you as.
- You are beautiful just the way you are.
- You are strong, diligent & you will persevere.
- You CAN rise above this.
- You’re a warrior through and through.
Do not let the words of strangers govern your action or thought about yourself. Define yourself, and to find yourself, think for yourself. What they think of you means nothing…what you think of you means everything. And, if you need a hand, someone to watch out for you while you find yourself, the Defenders of the Wall will gladly stand beside you. You are not a burden, you are not wasting our time, and your heart’s cries will be heard and felt, with the truest of compassion & patience.
Defenders of the Wall, Co-Chairman & Director of Operations
Rise above the hate & be a Patriot of Virtue. #NoMoreHate #DefendThemAll